Hey, gorgeous! Ready to level up your game and add some spice to your relationship? Let’s talk about swinging (and not the kind you do in the park).
Swinging can be a fun way for you and your partner to explore a new sexual realm together, but before you and your honey jump into the swing of things, let's talk about how to do it properly.
Sit down, grab your favourite snacks, and make sure you're both totally vibing with the idea. Communication is key, and we're all about that open, honest chat that keeps the good vibes coming.
Is Swinging The Same As Being In An Open Relationship?
Unless you’re in the scene, it’s understandable why you would think these are the same thing. Open relationships and swinging both turn the traditional relationship rulebook upside down.
Open relationships are a bit different from swinging. They’re more like cousins than twins.
When you open your relationship up, it usually means that you and your partner both have physical intimacy with each other and other people. It doesn’t mean that you’re both present for each encounter.
Swinging is like the ultimate double date, where your main squeeze is right there in the action with you. Take a threesome, for instance. Both partners are involved, but another person is included in the encounter. You and your boo are centre stage, but there's a fabulous third wheel adding extra sparkle to the show.
Is Swinging Good For A Relationship?
Is swinging the secret sauce for an amazing relationship? The answer to this basically all comes down to the couple.
Just like inviting a new flavour to your relationship palette, you have to make sure both of you are both fully on board with the decision, and willing to adapt along the way.
For some couples, dipping their toes into the non-monogamous pool is the best thing ever. It can level up your connection, communication, trust and intimacy. But, it's all about those heart-to-heart convos.
Jealousy can play a big part in swinging. Seeing your partner cosying up to someone else? It can be unusual and sometimes upsetting. You need to be mentally prepared for that to happen and secure enough in your relationship that it won’t go on to cause problems in the future. So, gear up mentally for the unexpected and make sure your relationship is unshakeable. Lay it all out there – desires, boundaries, expectations – and make sure you're both on the same page.
How To Become A Swinger
First things first – talk it out with your partner! This might sound like a no-brainer, but trust us, it's the game-changer. Dive deep into your desires, spill the tea on your boundaries, and make sure you're both on the same page. If your partner's not feeling it, respect their opinions. But if they're as intrigued as you are, consider the door officially open for exploring!
Get your groove on and do some research! There are all kinds of swinging styles and etiquettes to explore. Whether it's adding a partner, watching each other with someone else, swapping with another duo, or going all out at a swinging soiree – educate yourselves. Find what tickles your fancy together, so when you hit the scene, you'll feel ready for whatever comes at you.
Establish crystal-clear boundaries and rules. Lay it all out on the table – what's a green light, what's a no-go zone.
Hit the scene! Find a swinging event or club near you and dive in. Just being there doesn't mean you have to jump in right away – take it at your own pace. Connect with fellow newbies and seasoned swingers; they'll be thrilled to welcome you to the community and show you the ropes 😉
How To Be A Good Swinger
Respect Boundaries: Prioritise and respect boundaries from the off-set. Whether it's yours, your partner's, or your new swinging friends, keeping things cool and consensual is the golden rule.
Communicate Communicate Communicate: Yes, we know we keep going on about it but it is SO important. Regularly check in with your partner before, during and after the experience. You’ll both find out more about each other in the process.
Play Safe: Make sure to use protection to keep the good times rolling without any unwanted surprises. It's all about having a blast while keeping everyone's health in check. Make sure you’re both getting regularly tested and using condoms and dental dams during playtime!
Choose Wisely: Select your swinging partners with care. Look for mutual attraction, respect, and consent. Picking the right partner is always important, no matter the context.
Savour the Adventure: Jump into the journey with open arms. Embrace the adventure, and be ready for personal growth and exploration. It's not just swinging; it's also about self-discovery and relationship elevation.
Do Couples That Swing Stay Together?
Without a time machine, it’s impossible to predict how long any relationship will last. Swinging, like any relationship, is a journey with twists and turns. Some find it's a relationship boost, while others navigate challenges. Successful swinging couples have their communication game on point.
Successful swinging couples actively listen and communicate with each other. If jealousy or other issues arise, they talk it through and respect each other's feelings. Basically the same as with any relationship, swinging or not!
Ready To Jump In?
We hope you’re now ready to embark on this exciting adventure as a couple! Keep open communication, trust, and a commitment to each other's well-being at the forefront of your mind and you’ll be golden.
Whether it's strengthening your love bond or uncovering uncharted territories together, we hope you enjoy your unique journey as a couple 💜