Sex toys can be a great addition to your sex life. But if you’re a beginner, it can be tricky to know where to start. It can certainly be intimidating to look through an array of brightly coloured devices with all those bells and whistles (sex toys can do so much these days), let alone decide which one is right for you.  

 

Luckily, we’ve got you covered as we go over a guide on how to get started with sex toys, and which ones you need in your arsenal.  

 

Where To Begin With Sex Toys

Without trying to teach you to suck (love) eggs, it is best to start simple. There are plenty of affordable options available that are easy to use and are straightforward in function and design. Bullets are a good way to go for an avid first timer. Small and simple, these can be used by just you, with two, or a whole crew. 

  

Vibrators Are Great For Beginners

Vibrating toys are a staple of the industry, and for good reason. External vibrating toys like sex rings or magic wands are a great way to stimulate your way to climax. They can either be used during intercourse or on their own. Get creative! 

We have an entire range of sex toys for beginners that are perfect for dipping your toes into the sex toy pool. 

 

Internal Vibrators Are Full Of Fun

Insertable sex toys are a wonderful way to stimulate those tricky to reach spots. Our advice? Find something you might think is small, then go one smaller.  Once you’re familiar with what feels comfortable for you, there are all manner of vibrating options for you to play with (and a partner if you fancy it). Finding a size and style that suits you is a personal journey, but it is a fun one. Our flexible vibrator is great for starters. 

 

Getting really excited about sex toys? Restrain yourself. 

We like saucy accessories like handcuffs and blindfolds to really change up the dynamic during sex. Starting with just some simple restraints or a blindfold can open up a world of possibilities.  Just remember with restraints to constantly communicate with your partner and take things slow to start. I would also avoid any self-restraints, leave that to the experts. 

 

Things To Think About When Shopping Sex Toys For Beginners

Something to think about when first shopping for toys, is the length of time a toy is designed to be used for. Many are designed to bring the user to climax, either through their use or in aiding intercourse and these are generally great for beginners to use. Other toys like chastity devices or butt plugs are designed to be used for a longer period and can easily feel uncomfortable, especially if you’re unfamiliar with their use. Keep in mind when shopping that it’s worth not only considering how you use them, but also how you can safely stop using them.  

 

Other essentials for your sex toy starter collection 

 

Lube Lube Lube! 

 

No matter what intimacy you are planning, having lube on hand will always be useful. Using lube with vibrating toys can ease you in, especially if used in foreplay. Remember that lube will not come out at body temperature, so make sure it’s warm to avoid a cold shock! 

 

It is always important to get the right sort of lubricant, depending on what toys you are using. Oil based lubes should be avoided if there is any latex involved, including condoms, as this damages and destroys the materiel. Likewise, silicone-based lubricant can damage and degrade silicone-based toys, so it’s always worth a double check to what sort of lubricant is most suitable.  

 

Sex Toys and Cleanliness 

Keeping those toys squeaky clean is key to their longevity and they will require cleaning after use. Hot soapy water will do for personal use, however there are sex toy cleaners available should you not want to mix the two. Having separate cleaning utensils – brushes, towels, flannels - separate from everyday household can also prevent an unfortunate mix-up. We can’t imagine it’s a pleasant realisation halfway through brushing your teeth!  

We've written a blog all about keeping your sex toys clean, so make sure to give it a read for the proper way to care for your sex toys!

 

Condoms and Sex Toys

These rubber heroes are most famous for their work in keeping people safe from STIs during sex, but they have another hidden talent: they’re great at keeping your sex toys clean. Coming readily lubricated, condoms can conformably be used with a large range of insertable toys with minimum fuss. If you are sharing toys between yourself and a partner, or just exploring different areas of your body, either you or the toy wearing a condom is a readily available solution to prevent unwanted cross contamination. 

 

How To Store Sex Toys

No matter how open about your sex life you are, sex toys deserve to be away from the mantelpiece and stored in a cool dark area. Sunlight can break down materials which can affect the safety if left unchecked. If you have people regularly unsupervised in your room (small children, maybe) it might be worth investing in a more secure container to keep personal items away from inappropriate hands.

  

Spare Batteries 

it might seem obvious to some that spare batteries on-hand are a masturbation must-have. But until you’ve felt the pain of a sex toy running out of power when you’re just on the brink of climax, you haven’t experienced real heartbreak.  

Rather avoid the problem altogether? All our sex toys are wireless charging 

 

So, where do you and sex toys go from here?

If like many other people you find something that really works for you, great! The first hurdle with using toys really is the hardest. Once you know what you like, it’s quite easy to go from there into a collection where you’re not sure how it got so out of hand. Oh, and you will definitely have a favourite. These are some of ours!